My husband and I have had a lot of outside stress added to our normal daily lives lately. That stress has been manifesting itself into our relationship. He’s been working long, odd hours. I’m left to take care of the entire daily runnings of our children and household by myself. I normally take care of those things anyway, but I at least get to talk things over with him, or he’ll catch a quick clean on the bathroom. With him gone a lot or on the phone that’s not happening. Then because he day has been so stress filled when he does get home he wants to just chill.
What we need is to be able to have a romantic night out. Shoot it doesn’t even need to be a night out, but just a night of delving back into each other. He is my best friend and he told me just yesterday that I am his, so that is what makes it difficult when there is tension between us. It’s one thing to be mad at each other or annoyed at each other that happens in every relationship. But when both of us want to be connected but outside entities are pulling us apart and it begins to make us mad each other rather than the outside entities, it makes it that much harder and frustration. Does that make sense?
My husband is not the romantic type of guy to write me a love letter but his occasional post-it notes make such a huge difference in my day. Even that one post-it note that mentioned my pimple. Such a sweet one, that husband of mine. It starts when one of us, takes a step back and remembers to think of the other. My husband and I both believe one of the things that’s kept us together this long is our way of thinking. If I am nice to him, affectionate towards him, if I try to make him happy…. he will in return want to make me happy and then when he’s trying to make me happy it circles back to me trying to make him happy. Kind of like the whole pay it forward. I so believe in that, if I put forth good vibes, good efforts, good feelings, it will be hard for others to approach me with their own bad vibes, feelings or projections. I mean it is not impossible, people can be horrible creatures.
I’ve said before how much I enjoy smiling at tired old people, cranky people, or people so much in a rush they don’t even have time to breath. Watching their face turn into an upwards smile when you know they had no intention of doing so. It is almost a reaction they have no control over. To make a long story short, as my husband so often says… I need to smile send out the vibes and wait for them to take affect and in doing so we’ll make time for us.
So help a girl out what’s your secret for keeping the connection between you and your significant other?